As a young girl I’ve always had curves in the right places. These curves of mine, were always noticed by those I would label as sexual predators. Sexual predators are always lurking to see who they can violate sexually. I remember as a young girl walking down the street from my aunt's house to my grandma's house. There was a man sitting on the steps in the cut. He was a known sexual predator according to the adults in the neighborhood. As a kid who didn’t really understand what a sexual predator was and what his intentions were I didn’t pay him much attention. Not until one day he reached out and attempted to grab me. That day, I got away, but I hated everything he stood for and would see him daily. However, he left me with a promise that he would get me one day. Thank God that promise didn't manifest. Life goes on and I became a teenager...
As a teenager the men that watched me grow up would say things like, "You have sexy lips!" or "You really have grown up!" #DISGUSTING. In my neighborhood, there was a gentleman in his twenties that unbeknownst to me was a sexual predator, I began a relationship with him. I was 16 and he was 26. Although I was a willing participant, he was a sexual predator because I was under the legal age. This relationship became very controlling. This predator was so fascinated with me that he began hanging around my school, following me around, and accosting anyone that looked in my direction.
Sexual predators come in all fashions! They have a mindset to prey on women and children according to their desires and to fulfill their sexual needs. I came from a broken home, so this sexual predator was able to provide the material things that my mother was not able to give to me. Eventually I would then have to learn how to defend myself physically to be able to leave this predator which took a toll on my emotional state. You just don’t walk away from a sexual predator nor do they go away with the words NO or STOP. It wasn’t easy dealing with all of this alone, not being able to tell the people that are supposed to protect you.
I challenge you today. If you are or have been a victim of a sexual predator to no longer give the abuser access to you. Abuse continues for the victim even after the physical relationship is over. GET HELP!!! The help might not be from your family, but help is out there. GET HELP!!! Help comes in many forms rather the authorities, counselor, teacher etc... Be mindful that even though help comes in many forms so does a sexual predator; pastor, father, brother, uncle relationship, etc...
No one has the right to violate you sexually. I pray for healing and that you be free from the physical and mental abuse that you may endure.
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